Maybe I was a little harsh on Southern Men now that I've slept on my opinion
October 31, 2011
My friend reminded me there are wolves in sheep's clothing anywhere you live and men in California can be just as dishonest which made me realize perhaps I was being a little harsh on Southern men in general. I also was reminded, in this day and age it's very difficult for people to make commitments to anything!
I know I find it difficult to even commit to living in one place very long which my friends tease me about. However, I have a valid excuse. According to a research study down by San Diego University on people who've lived overseas and traveled a lot, it's quite common for people like me not to stay in one place for too long since we get bored easily.
Scouting around the internet I ran across this interesting article entitled, The 17 Habits of People Who Change the World, which I am excerpting here to lead you to read the entire article on this website since it ties into my change in thinking regarding divorce.
I realized after sleeping on this last blog I really can't judge anyone for the decisions they have made, or are making. It's intensely personal for people and very painful. My heart goes out to everyone who has either gone through a divorce, or is going through one, or contemplating one. I know it's not easy and I apologize if you might have felt judged when reading my last post.
I was making more of a sociological observation of the differences between the South and the West Coast from a detached perspective since it's been so surprising to me to see this phenomenon occur among so many people, but I don't want anyone to feel hurt or misunderstood in the meantime.
So, without further ado, here's a brief highlight of a very interesting article I hope you will consider reading because it may open your mind to new possibilities as it did mine:
"The 17 Habits of People Who Change the World (aka The Live Your Legend Operating Manifesto)
1. Try new things. Constantly experiment with new people, jobs, projects and experiences. See what sticks. Without experiments we’ll never learn anything. Without learning, we’ll get nowhere. Consider your life a series of experiments- big and small. Always be testing. Live outside your comfort zone and don’t underestimate the importance of being a beginner.
2. Measure against your own standards, not others. All of us have different definitions of success and goals that likely have nothing to do with those around us. So stop comparing to others. It’s almost surely apples to oranges and you’ll either feel overly confident or overly disappointed. Either way it’s less than useful. You are your own comparison. Define your success and own it.
3. Know who you are. The better you know yourself the more likely you are to do work that matters. Simple as that. Study your strengths, know your weaknesses, identify your values, define your success, learn the things that excite and those that terrify you. Take all the tests and evaluations you can find. Begin to live a life congruent with your values, strengths and purpose and you’ll never look back. But do things for the wrong reasons and there’ll be nothing but disappointment. Kind of like how business school killed the entrepreneur. No sleepwalking allowed!"
To continue reading all 17, please go here: http://liveyourlegend.net/the-17-habits-of-people-who-change-the-world-aka-the-live-your-legend-operating-manifesto/
I hope you enjoy this follow up and know I'm still framing my opinions with input from others I respect. More thoughts later...
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