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January 2011

My Opinion on the Gender Differences in Social Media.

By Joy A. Kennelly

I just finished reading The Male Brain By Louann Brizendin, a neuropsychiatrist, this year and Dr. John Medina's, a developmental molecular biologist, book Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School back in 2009.

You can read my quick review of the latter, here: 

Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home and School

Here's a link to the NY Times review of Louann's book: A Mind of His Own

I enjoy learning about the brain because then you understand yourself, and others, better and you don't always listen to experts who are skilled in their fields, but perhaps don't understand the full gender differences which begin with the way our brains are wired.

As a result, I feel social media is one of the areas currently dominated by male experts who tout certain ways of executing campaigns, interacting on behalf of clients, and measuring ROI that work in certain situations, but not all the time. From a male perspective, if there's no bottom line, no money attached to it, how can there be any value?

Men measure their success by how much money they make, how successful their careers are, and where they are in the pecking order I've noticed. Women, more so now perhaps, do the same, but on a much smaller scale. But in the long scope of things, women seem to mainly measure their success by the relationships they've nourished and kept, and their social interactions simply to interact (not always requiring a result since the social interaction in and of itself is a result.)

Now if we apply that to social media, then it might be said that women who are used to developing relationships,"building communities" per se, to their benefit should be considered the true experts. What I always find interesting is the predominance of male speakers over female speakers when discussing social media. Don't we, as a gender, have value to add? Are there that few women willing to put themselves out there that there's such a gender imbalance? 

Or, is it possible, that male organizers choose other males since there's always a boy's club in every industry until women band together to create one of their own, not as large, but there nonetheless hence the need for such organizations as Women in Film, NAWBO, etc. To be honest, I've never joined any all-female organizations because I realize that men make the business world go round and if you have more male connections than female you have a much better chance of succeeding since your male counterparts have access to venture capital, resources, information, their network and other keys to worlds women are often shut out of unless they keep that door open wider.

Not to say there aren't very successful women who have succeeded by virtue of all female groups, but I like to keep my professional connections mixed myself. I've always done it, always will. I've also always mixed up the racial makeup of whatever I've worked on too because I feel all people have something of value to add which can also be lacking in certain professional situations.

Now if only social media conferences would consider doing the same thing perhaps there would be a more balanced world representation of what works and what doesn't in social media.

Don't you agree?


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Ladies and Gentlemen, #Chris Mouch Band

Ara and I are having a great time tonight. Everyone is talented and unique which makes it fun to listen to.

What are we fighting for? Chris' lead song.

Is it wrong if I say I liked the petite powerhouse singer from Crossed Keys the best tonight? I'm still blown away a voice that big came out of such a small body.:)

How sweet. Chris just said his sister flew in OH just to see him. Pretty sweet. I like Chris' music cuz you can finally hear the lyrics.:) Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

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California v. Montana Governors - humorous look at the differences (and knowing Montanans like I do - true!)

The Governor of California is jogging with his dog along a nature trail.

A coyote jumps out and attacks the Governor's dog, then bites the Governor.

 1.  The Governor starts to intervene, but reflects upon the movie "Bambi" and then realizes he should stop because the coyote is only doing what is natural.

2.  He calls animal control. Animal Control captures the coyote and bills the State $200 testing it for diseases and $500 for relocating it.

3.  He calls a veterinarian. The vet collects the  dead dog and bills the State $200 testing it for diseases.

4.  The Governor goes to hospital and spends $3,500 getting checked for diseases from the coyote and on getting his bite wound bandaged.

5.  The running trail gets shut down for 6 months while Fish & Game conducts a $100,000 survey to make sure the area is now free of dangerous animals.

6.  The Governor spends $50,000 in state funds implementing a "coyote awareness program" for residents of the area.

7.  The State Legislature spends $2 million to study how to better treat rabies and how to permanently eradicate the disease throughout the world.

8.  The Governor's security agent is fired for not stopping the attack. The State spends $150,000 to hire and train a new agent with additional special training, re: the nature of coyotes.

9.  PETA protests the coyote's relocation and files a $5 million suit against the State.

Montana :

The Governor of Montana is jogging with his dog along a nature trail.  A Coyote jumps out and attacks his dog.

1. The Governor shoots the coyote with his State-issued pistol and keeps jogging. The Governor has spent $0.90 on a .45 ACP  hollow point cartridge.

2. The Buzzards eat the dead coyote.

And that, my friends, is why California is broke and Montana is not.

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#Frank Miceli has the best #P.O.N.Y League stories!

I am so not into sports, but after hearing all the stories and history on Toluca and East Valley Yout Baseball I totally understand why Frank is so passionate about it!

Now to interview a few more people and then write it up! My mind is overwhelmed with all of the richness to this life.

And no, I don't work for the Miceli family. LOL Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

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#Michelle Monroe Jewelry Bling with a capital B!

By Joy A. Kennelly

Check out more on her website Blingity, Blingity, Bling!!!! Swaroski crystals and more. Beautiful bridge costume jewelry and hand-made handbags.

Vogue, Cosmo, In-Style, 944, Beverly Hills Lifestyle and more have all showcased her jewelry. Actress Amber Riley from Glee and Jane Fonda wore Michelle's feather clutches to the Golden Globes. Visit Posh Events today to see tons of designer's wholesale designs in person at the SLS Hotel in Beverly Hills until 5pm. Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

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#Martin Luther King's "Letter from a Birmingham Jail" Inspiration for today and always

“Letter From Birmingham Jail”

April 16, 1963


While confined here in the Birmingham City Jail, I came across your recent statement calling my present activities "unwise and untimely." Seldom do I pause to answer criticism of my work and ideas. If I sought to answer all the criticisms that cross my desk, my secretaries would have little time for anything other than such correspondence in the course of the day, and I would have no time for constructive work. But since I feel that you are men of genuine goodwill and that your criticisms are sincerely set forth, I want to try to answer your statements in what I hope will be patient and reasonable terms.

I think I should indicate why I am here in Birmingham, since you have been influenced by the view which argues against "outsiders coming in." I have the honor of serving as president of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, an organization operating in every Southern state, with headquarters in Atlanta, Georgia. We have some eighty-five affiliated organizations across the South, and one of them is the Alabama Christian Movement for Human Rights. Frequently we share staff, educational and financial resources with our affiliates. Several months ago the affiliate here in Birmingham asked us to be on call to engage in a nonviolent direct-action program if such were deemed necessary. We readily consented, and when the hour came we lived up to our promise. So I, along with several members of my staff, am here because I was invited here. I am here because I have organizational ties here.

But more basically, I am in Birmingham because injustice is here. Just as the prophets of the eighth century B.C. left their villages and carried their "thus saith the Lord" far beyond the boundaries of their home towns: and just as the Apostle Paul left his village of Tarsus and carried the gospel of Jesus Christ to the far corners of of the Greco-Roman world, so am I compelled to carry the gospel of freedom far beyond my own hometown. Like Paul, I must constantly respond to the Macedonian call for aid.

You can read the rest of the letter in full on the Martin Luther King Jr. Research and Education website:

Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day

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My article on #Joe Miceli and #Miceli's Restaurant is live on #Studio City Patch today! YEAH! #in

By Joy A. Kennelly

My article, "Joe Miceli Loves to Dish Up a Good Pizza is front and center on the Studio City Patch online newspaper today. It will rotate throughout the day so if you miss it, look in the Business section. It takes a village to share a good story. I hope you like it!

It's always nice when something you devote a lot of time and energy to turns out well. Please don't think I'm conceited when I say that because I did have help achieving this goal and want to acknowledge everyone involved too. Joe Miceli was as gracious and open with his life story as anyone could hope to find. All of the people I interviewed for quotes were great too!

Can you image the Owner and Founder of Poquito Mas, Kevin McCarney, took time out of his busy schedule to respond to my request for a quote? It's obvious how much respect he has for Joe and their friendship which I really admire. Everyone was so gracious it was a real pleasure to meet and speak to them all.

 My photographer, Debra Kreuter of GlobaLink Media, willingly gave up her Friday evening to shoot all the fun pix you will view accompanying the article. Here's one of Joe in action to pique your interest: 

My wonderful Studio City Patch Editor, Mike Szymanski, gave great gentle tweaks to polish it into the final product it is today. He's great to work with and an awesome writer in his own right! You can read his articles throughout the site too.

You may recognize his name from bylines in such publications as Los Angeles Times, USA Today, Entertainment Weekly, US Magazine, The Advocate, Los Angeles Magazine and many web sites such as E! Online,,, and more. I only hope to have as many writing credits as he does!:) You always learn from other writers/editors you work with which is why I enjoy writing for Patch so much.

BTW, I am looking to start a writing group with professional, published business writers and if this is you, please shoot me an email.

I've lead numerous writing groups in the past and am excited to do this again. Screenwriter Duane Adler was in one of my first groups. He went on to write Save the Last Dance and many more scripts since then. I've also helped an author achieve success at BEA, and represented numerous authors with their public relations efforts (Linda Seger, Script Consultant/Author of over 10 popular books including Web Thinking which I publicized for her; Communications Consultant, Regina Preciado of Word Wrangler fame; and  Toni Vaughn Heineman, DMH, founder and Executive Director of A Home Within and Co-Editor of Building A Home Within: Meeting the Emotional Needs of Children and Youth in Foster Care .)

Contact me at joykennelly (at) gmail (dot) com if you're of that caliber and serious about your writing.:)


Thanks for dropping by! Next up is my article on Maeve's Residuals, an iconic Irish pub with a rich history too.

Gotta run. Interviewing the owner shortly!

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