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February 2008

What a fun, productive day...

By Joy A. Kennelly

The Office totally cracks me up! Anyone else like this totally whacked out show? Reminds me of some people I know. Too funny. I LOVE Steve Carell.

Today's Day Spa event at A Fresh Face Skincare was fun. Victoria, the owner, is so beautiful and sweet she's a pleasure to work with. Her massage therapist, Tanne I believe is how you spell his name, is very skilled with his hands, just came over from Trilogy Spa, and very sweet too. The best part? Tanne's massages are only $45/hour! He's very good too.

AND!!!! There is a wonderful two-hour special that Victoria is offering that is just amazing. Check this out:

  • Warm ex-foliating foot massage
  • Ex-foliating hand treatment with warm paraffin dip
  • 30-minute Aromatherapy Massage
  • Aromatherapy deep cleansing facial
  • Relaxing Scalp Massage

All this for only $99! Can you believe it?  This special and the nice people who provide these services make me almost want to work on the front desk! Just kidding.  Maybe. Maybe not! It's fun to be out and about with people rather than stuck working behind a computer all day.

Although I do get paid well to do that and enjoy my clients. Got a lot of work done on their behalf before dashing out, but more to do! And I'm lovin' it! I love shaping and building people's careers to help them achieve success.

In any case back to my Day Spa day. Introduced a lot of new people to the wonders of GoChi, learned how to mix a mean GoChi/ Vodka (we forgot to buy tonic! LOL) drinks, and enjoyed a wonderful hot stone treatment for my achey breaky back and a photo-sensitive light treatment for some of my dark spots/freckles.

I'll keep you posted on the dark spot situation if you're interested. Like you care. LOL. I am curious though because I've never tried this before. Learning all kinds of new beauty, health things hanging out with my new friends.

Speaking of hanging out, bought some new bras the other day and man, what a difference new lingerie makes! I feel like a new woman! LOL My silhouette now rivals that of my friend Shana's new boobs.  (TMI I know, but I just felt like sharing and making you laugh.)

I've been way too serious lately and I just don't feel like it any more. Time for fun! I'm happy, why shouldn't my blog be? :)

Have a great night. Now back to Celebrity Apprentice. 

Stunning sunset tonight - you catch it?

By Joy A. Kennelly

Been very busy, but happily took a quick break at 5pm to walk down to the beach and catch the setting sun. I only wish I'd brought my camera to show you the results! Absolutely stunning. It's why I chose to move back down here and why I'm still here (despite everything else going on.)

Got to enjoy the positive ions while you can! In any case, hope you're having a great week. You can catch my client updates on my wordpress blog by simply clicking on my name above. Lots of good things to report and things I'm working on.

More later!

A friend sent me this - enjoy the read!

(Just received this via email - did not write it. Wish I did though!)

A young woman went and told her mother about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked,
'What does it mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong , hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?!

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you go forward in life when you let go of past failures and heartaches. When hope fills your days, it will also fill your heart.

Interesting article in the LA Times today...

By Joy A. Kennelly

I've been fighting horrible allergies again (always happens with the sudden weather changes) and haven't felt like writing much.

However, did hit an amazing art opening at the Gagosian Gallery with Julian Schnabel's latest artwork (selling for $150k - $500k!) The gallery was so packed there was a line out the door waiting to get in. Once you got in, it was difficult to move around it was so packed even inside and we arrived on the latter end of the event.

Lots of celebs in attendance which is always fun. Julian himself was there busily chatting with an art patron. The gallery is two stories and his artwork is that tall. Quite amazing. Hauntingly beautiful.

Then hit another smaller gathering which was perfect for my own art clients. More on that once everything has been confirmed.

Otherwise, if you're looking for my opinions on what is happening in Hermosa Beach, I've taken to writing them once again on This is Hermosa. Especially check out the CUP Review link. I think what's going on down here is so bogus.

In any case, did you all catch today's LA Times and the man who calls himself the Video Vigilante? Maybe we'll have some of those pop up down here since people (i.e. Planning Commission) don't want to believe the truth except for what they see themselves. And even then, their loyalties are often with the bars rather than residents which is sad.

However, enough on that. Gotta catch up on some stuff today.

Have a beautiful day!

Channel 4 Chuck Henry news coverage on Hermosa Beach bar scene

By Joy A. Kennelly

Watch Chuck Henry, co-anchor of the award-winning weekday editions of the "Channel 4 News", coverage of our out-of-control Downtown Bar scene and the recent Planning Commission meeting.

Henry has won 12 Los Angeles area Emmy Awards for his work in front of the camera as anchor, reporter and host, and behind the camera as director and producer. In 1995, he was feted with a national Cable Ace Award for best host of a series.

Click here for his coverage into this issue with live footage of a fight that occurred at 1am outside a local resident's home near the North End bar. There's also some great interviews with locals who are fed up. Those of you in the biz, might even recognize one particular interviewee!:)

Even Fox news picked up the HB bar issue story!

By Joy A. Kennelly

Except for the party boy's commentary at the end (highly unprofessional in my opinion, but hey, he does traffic, not news so he's allowed to be biased and pro-bar I guess. Hi traffic boy - stick to traffic - you'll report it better. Oh dear, was that mean? Trying not to be, but certain beach people drive me crazy when they refuse to see anything beyond their and their friend's selfish desires rather than the best interests of the community as a whole.)

In any case, here's the coverage by Fox news this morning with great commentary and footage of all the key city players who were at last night's planning commission meeting (which I missed due to a previous commitment.)

"Alcohol permits are on the line for some bars and restaurants in Hermosa Beach" is the lead Emmy-winning broadcast veteran Steve Edwards gave who hosts Good Day LA, seen weekday mornings at 7:00 a.m. on KTTV FOX 11.

Click here for the video news story ok? Thanks for stopping by!

It's great to see this issue receiving the coverage it deserves because it's time for change in the city and we're going to see this issue through to the end. Now if only the Planning Commissioners will get the backbone necessary to do what's right and enforce the law!

More to come on March 18 when they meet again. You can be sure this issue is not going away any time soon!

Boys will be boys, but it would be nice if they'd grow up too...

By Joy A. Kennelly

Just a quick aside. Again, I've been viciously attacked, but I wouldn't expect anything less from the boy who sent it. I say boy even though he should be an adult because it's immature and petty. I've confronted him privately on his facebook page and hope he realizes it needs to stop once and for all. This has been going on since last August. Enough!

Another man-child questioned my life and my blog where I mocked these boys. Apparently he didn't read any of my future blogs where I actually apologized for what offended him. I'm being deliberately obtuse because this is meant for them only. I will not be posting their comments.

In the future, if you don't have the guts to reveal your real name and real email, then I won't be publishing your comments. I put myself out there. You can too.

That said, this was just sent to me by a friend and felt rather appropriate in light of everything that is going on so enjoy!

Malachi 3:3 says: 'He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.'  

This verse puzzled some women in a Bible study and they wondered what this statement meant about the character and nature of God. 

One of the women offered to find out the process of refining silver and get back to the group at their next Bible Study.

That week, the woman called a silversmith for an appointment to watch him at work. She didn't mention anything about the reason for her interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining Silver.

 As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over the fire and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest as to burn away all the impurities. 

The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot; then she thought again about the verse that says: 'He sits as a refiner and purifier of silver.'   She asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit there in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined.  

The man answered that yes, he not only had to sit there holding the silver, but he had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the fire. If the silver was left a moment too long in the flames, it would be destroyed.

he woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silversmith, 'How do you know when the silver is fully refined?'

He smiled at her and answered, 'Oh, that's easy when I see my image in it.'

If today you are feeling the heat of the fire, remember that God has his eye on you and will keep watching you until He sees His image in you.

Pass this on as in this very moment, someone needs to know that God is watching over them.

And, whatever they're going through, they'll be a better person in the end.

'Life is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.'

Here's some Encouragement for Today encouragement

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A Runaway Ramp

By Marybeth Whalen

"Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize." I Corinthians 9:24 (NIV)


My friend Melanie and I were coming back from speaking at a retreat in the mountains when I noticed several runaway truck ramps along the highway as we wound our way down the steep, imposing mountain roads. These ramps were installed so that large trucks have a place to go if their brakes fail, or if they are simply going too fast and could possibly lose control. I took note of the different styles of ramps--some dirt, some concrete--all designed so the trucks would have an "out" in times of danger. All put in place ahead of time, before they were ever needed.

I thought about how we could all stand to install runaway ramps in our lives. Some of us need to have ramps for when we get going too fast, committing to too many things and not saying "no" when we should. Some of us need ramps to slow us down when we our natural brakes aren't working well as we travel down a path of temptation. And some of us need to have a ramp in place in our relationships; erecting boundaries that keep us from venturing down dangerous roads we have traveled with people before.

For each of us, these ramps will look different and serve different purposes. Like the truck ramps, we need to have them in place ahead of time so that when we get going too fast--when we are threatening to fly out of control--we can quickly get off the path we're on and find refuge and rest. The ramps should provide us with a place we can sit and catch our breath. A place where we can gain a better perspective.

Do you have any runaway ramps? If so, what do they look like? Perhaps your ramp is a date with a godly friend for coffee to talk, laugh, cry or vent. Perhaps your ramp is exercise. Maybe your ramp is a weekend away to collect your thoughts, go for long walks, soak in God's Word and spend extended time praying. Perhaps your ramp is a regular appointment with a Christian counselor to process current issues or problems from your past.

I have a friend who schedules a weekly time for her runaway ramp by hiring a sitter to keep her kids for several hours while she visits a local church prayer room and spends concentrated time talking and listening to God. The point isn't what our ramp looks like--as that will be very personal--but to have a ramp erected, before we get into a desperate situation. It just might be the one thing in our lives that makes the difference between careening down the mountain or making it safely to our intended destination.

 Dear Lord, help me to know when I need to get off the road. Help me to see when I am going too fast in the wrong direction. Help me, Lord, to have people and places in my life that are safe. Most of all, help me to remember that I can always run to you. In Jesus' Name, Amen

Very interesting edits being made without my permission

By Joy A. Kennelly

I know there's a lot more tech savvy people around than myself although I was voted Who's Who in Technology a few years back. I find it very interesting that a blog I wrote regarding Kay Hymowitz' Man-Child article where I highlighted the 45 year old plus partier who throws all kinds of crazy parties in Manhattan Beach where he grossly hits on 20 year olds and has a following of a ton of other men-children has been edited without my permission.

Now I know I give Marianne permission to edit me on This is Hermosa, but this is my own private blog where supposedly only I have access. Very interesting. I'm having it looked into right now, but just know I will find out.

Also, I guess I struck a nerve that needed to be hit or something. HA! I guess they didn't like being outed especially since rumor has it they were trying to pitch the whole over 40 non-committal men partying as a reality show. I think it would have been a very sad day indeed if it got picked up and am glad they're stumbling around in obscurity except for my blog revealing their immaturity.

Now to see if this gets edited too! HA! Party on child-men.

When you're ready to grow up and be real men, give us a call...

What does love got to do with it? do with it? Everything...

By Joy A. Kennelly

Seeing as the people I want to hear this will read this blog more likely than my other one where I would rather write it, here I am again in the spirit of love and truth. Read on if you dare. LOL!

I'll share the message I heard this morning that really pierced my heart and caused me to cry in church. Not for reasons you would assume since I didn't have a valentine to share with and the message's title is "What We All Really Wanted for Valentine's Day."

However, perhaps a little. Sometimes it's hard to figure out where emotion is coming from and it's just there all of a sudden.

I've been asking numerous Christian friends to pray for me as I take a stand for balance in my community. As a result, I feel protected, supported and loved by them. However, when you ask God to use you and make you more loving, you need to be prepared for the consequences of that request.

When I went to Hungary to live and volunteer with orphan children my desire through that experience was that God would humble me and help me to have His heart for people. Living in substandard conditions, being deprived of any type of sugar and having to eat deep-fried bread as the main daily staple was a huge learning experience.

However, what really touched my life was the love and good cheer of these children who had absolutely nothing and were generally despised in their country because so many of them were gypsies.  For some reason I really related to their feeling of abandonment even though I grew up in a two-parent family that was, and is, intact.

I still don't know what part of me was moved to relate so closely to their life experience, but it humbled and broke my heart changing me forever. As I've told you before, for four years after that experience I collected toys for these orphan children and shipped them over during Christmas.

But that's not what I really wanted to write about today. When you ask God to use you and you ask that you have love in your heart for the people you're speaking to, that's when you experience growth. At least I have.

I know people in the community read my blog and also my comments on This is Hermosa, our community forum where people can voice their opinion on what has happened, and will happen, with our Downtown nightlife scene.

I've not cared what people thought that much and just spouted off my opinion, oftentimes angrily, oftentimes loudly because I've felt this issue is so important and it's time for change at any cost. Also, that anger was the only way to get my point across and be heard. As a result, despite my best intentions and sincerest intent, the message has sometimes been lost in the emotion.

What has also happened, is that things that weren't meant to be read a certain way, have been read completely different than my intent much to my chagrin, embarrassment, or sadness. However, I've set up certain people to expect certain things from me and as a result they expect them even when it's not true. (I know this is obtuse, but bear with me, I'm getting to my point.)

In any case, I've been challenged privately by family members and friends to consider how I'm saying what I'm saying and to share God's love, rather than just judgment. As a result, for the most part, I believe I've really tried to do that.

However, this weekend it became very evident that I hadn't accomplished my goal very well when an email I sent out to a group of concerned citizens I've been working with privately was completely misinterpreted and read as an attack by one man.

As a result, this person decided to viciously attack me back in front of everyone. I've been waiting for something like that to happen all along on the forum and have accepted it there often, but never expected anything like that to come from someone I like and respect and have supported. I was completely blind-sided.

Apparently he felt disrespected and doesn't like me, so my fault for thinking otherwise. I feel terrible he felt that publicly attacking me was the only way to express himself and that he took what I wrote so wrong. I also felt sick to my stomach that he felt so disrespected when that wasn't my intent at all. I've apologized and hope he accepts it. I've done my part. Now the ball's in his court.

What was more devastating was the lack of support I felt I received from people I've been working with for the past couple of months and considered friends. The attack was what it was. There were elements of truth to it which is why it stung so deeply and hurt more than it might of if it wasn't accurate, but that I can handle.

I welcome criticism (when constructive and when it reveals my blind spots because then I can work on these areas to change), but what I don't like is people acting one way with me in private, and then another way with others in public because they want to be liked by everyone, or are ashamed of me and my actions or opinions.

That rips me to shreds every time.  Be my friend, or hate me, just be honest. I'm honest. Be honest back. That's why I'll never be a politician. I'm too honest and blunt - not good at kissing butt and playing games, but I'm learning. It also helps to take a step back and let people do what they're going to do.

If they don't want to be deep friends, you can't force someone to do so. You can be hi and bye friends and then allow both of you to be happier because there are less expectations. Or as they say in Al-Anon - Detach with love. Still working on the love part, but again, I'm learning.

What I love about my Al-Anon group is that when I go there I can feel safe and just be me and share. Everyone may not agree, but they love me nonetheless because we're all works in progress. Plus, we've all been there in some way, shape or form.

We've either hurt someone by what we've said, or been hurt by what someone else has said, but we're learning. I love learning. What's cool to is that I've finally found a sponsor to help me work the steps again. I need that desperately.

I've worked the first five twice, but have always moved which has prevented me from continuing the remaining seven. This time I hope to stay put to learn what it is I need to. The 6th step reads, "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."

I am so ready, it's not even funny. When you keep getting pounded on the head with all your defects of character over and over and over and over again in different ways that keep getting more and more difficult to take, it's only a matter of time before you throw your hands up in the air and cry out, Ok God! I give up! Help me! Change me! I can't take it any longer! I don't want to be this person any more!

That's where I'm at. I don't want to be the person I am any more. I want change in my life. I want my life to reflect God's love in such a way that it's undeniable that He is the reason I am a different person because the change is so miraculous.

Not to say I think I'm so awful that I need a major personality overhaul, but there are definitely character defects that have been affecting all areas of my life and need to be eliminated once and for all. I feel only God can do it because I've tried so hard on my own and it's not working.

So, with that as the preface, here's the message notes from today.

I was a little worried that the guest speaker who was replacing Jim wasn't going to be as good, but I was pleasantly surprised. Greg Johnson is Jim's Brother-in-law and just as funny, (maybe more!) and quite insightful a teacher.

There were times when he was sharing you could have heard a pin drop. Since Jim was gone, of course his wife Sandy was gone too which meant we had a guest worship leader. David did a great job because he just has such an easy way about him and has fun leading us which is what music is all about anyway. Enjoyment and worshiping God.

I loved the electric guitar solo Steve, I think that's his name, did as our opening too. Gotta say, a man playing electric guitar is so sexy! Love it, especially in church. Stay away impure thoughts! It is church after all. But ladies, if you come, you'll see what I mean.

We have a very attractive music team I must say. And the talent there is really amazing. Monica Bruno sang a solo today and everyone burst into spontaneous applause afterwards. Really great singer. Plus, the drama was very funny and insightful too. Just love the creativity at this church. You must come visit some day.

So, without further ado, here's the message notes from today:

What We All Really Wanted for Valentine's Day

Everyone wants love... and a little something!

Ephesians 5:21:

21Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.

The pastor broke this down even more to describe the meanings of two words, Courteously: "Other centered; regard with respect and tinged with awe" and Reverent: "to act in a manner that provides dignity to someone else."

Whoa, this one really spoke to me. I haven't been doing that because I've been so angry at what's been going on in the Downtown area I haven't really cared. But God knew that it's easy to not be courteously reverent which is why it's included in the Bible as something to be. Okay, I'm listening God. I want that more in my life. I want to give it too.

1. Wives Want to Know They are Loved and Treasured.

A. A wife desires unconditional love from their husbands.

Ephesians 5:25:

   25 -28Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.

Greg clarified this by saying, not unobserved love that doesn't have boundaries though. God is gentle, but direct. Learn to say the right things in the right way is what Greg suggested. Ok, I will.

B. Every man knows how to treasure what he truly loves.

Ephesians 5:33a
33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself...

Song of Solomon 8:7:

    7 Many waters cannot quench love;
       rivers cannot wash it away.
       If one were to give
       all the wealth of his house for love,
       it [a] would be utterly scorned.

C. Harshness shuts down a woman's ability to feel safe.

Colossians 3:19:

    19Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Greg explained that gentleness allows women to open up and feel emotionally safe and secure. It's hard to do which is why it's been put in the Bible. That is why I don't feel safe around that other man who attacked me. He was SOOO harsh it was a little overboard, but I have to realize that God must have felt I wasn't hearing the previous messages that had been said in nicer ways.

I like to think that things happen in our lives for a reason. Everything has a plan and purpose to it. This was just a life lesson I needed to learn obviously. I intend to grow from it no matter how painful it's been.

D. A treasured wife overflows with confidence and passion.

Greg has counseled a lot of couples during his time of being a pastor which gives him a depth and breadth of experience upon which to share with us. He said the greatest gift a husband can give a wife is to allow her to feel treasured because then she pursues her passions with confidence.

I've seen this in the couples I've worked with too. If the wife wants to be an artist and the husband wants other things for her and doesn't support and encourage her, she is not as confident in her life or artistic endeavors.

Those that are loved, supported and encouraged in their passions have such a different glow about them. They move forward in confidence and assurance that their husband is their greatest supporter and friend.

That's what I want in my life partner. That's why I admire certain marriages around me so much and why I want to spend more time with them. There's a common respect and love that just naturally flows between these couples which is really beautiful to see.

My friends Shana and Rick have that type relationship. I think that's why I like to be around them so much. They are true partners and supporters of each other, something I didn't really see exhibited growing up.

My family relationships have changed a lot now, but your parent's relationship definitely molds your view of marriage. Maybe that's why I'm still single? Probably one of the reasons... It's also the reason this past weekend was so painful. If you don't have a friend getting your back when you're being attacked when you're single, who do you have?

In any case, back to the message.

2. Husbands Want to Know They Are Loved and Respected.

A. A Husband desires unconditional respect from his wife.

Ephesians 5:33:
33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

This explanation I found very interesting: "women exert control by withholding respect which came as a result of the fall." I've not been very respectful of certain city council members or tavern owners which has affected my community relationships as a result.

I always forget how important respect is to men. I need to learn that better. I'm sorry to those I've offended unintentionally AND intentionally. Hopefully we can start over. Or not. Whatever you decide.

B. A wife must learn how to be a companion to her husband.

Genesis 2:18:

    18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Greg shared how lately his wife, Sandy's sister, has taken to just coming and sitting with him while he watches a couple quarters of a game and how much that has meant to him. My ex-boyfriend always wanted me to just be with him even when washing the car. I couldn't understand why he needed me there when he could do it by himself.

However, it wasn't because he needed help. He just wanted my company. Now I understand. I want a companion in my life too. It's hard to be single and a business owner. What's nice though is I'm developing relationships with people to do business together which is new, but very welcome. I'm tired of doing everything alone. At least this part of my life is coming together. Now to work on the personal side.

C. Joining him in chosen activities inspires his life.

No Bible verse here, but Greg explained the motivation to share your husband's activities is to know this inspires him. Very interesting.

Now I know where I blew it in certain male friendships/relationships because I didn't understand why a guy needed me somewhere when he was surrounded by people and didn't seem like he needed me when he really did.

Sorry CT, JP and WS. Truly I am.

D. Admiration from a wife costs so little and does so much.

1 Peter 3:1-2:

1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

This one really spoke to me too. A friend of mine is in a relationship I don't necessarily approve of or see going anywhere (which is none of my business which is why we've agreed to disagree and not discuss it any more out of respect for our friendship.)

When I heard this verse I was struck that she is living her life in such a way as to win this man over by virtue of her life.  However, I wonder if it really applies since they're not married? I don't know, but love both of them so whatever God has in store... None of my business.

3. Kids want to know they are secure and safe.

A. Closely watching a good marriage gives kids hope.

Proverbs 22:6:

    6 Train [a] a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Greg explained that the way was similar to a rut in the road, or a bend in the bow. Hard to not see.

4. Everybody Wants to Know They are Loved and Forgiven.

1 John 4:10:

God Is Love
This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they've done to our relationship with God.

This is the verse that really made me cry. That God would love me just as I am - judgmental, critical, angry, impossible, bossy and whatever else you want to call me, just as I am. As the old Christian cliche says, I'm not perfect, just forgiven.

My desire is to share God's love and to do that I have to feel God's love. You can't share what you don't experience. So, my goal is to receive the love that people have given me and express myself in love too. I may not always succeed. In fact, probably will often fail.

However, just know that this is something I'm working on. It's my deepest desire that you experience the love of God and if I'm hindering your ability to see God, then that's what needs to be changed. I'm sorry and ask your forgiveness. Probably won't be the first time I ask it, nor the last, but just know I'm saying this sincerely.

Okay, that's all. Gotta run. Have an awesome Sunday.

Did you all hear about the mob arrests in NY?

By Joy A. Kennelly

Wow! I had no idea this had gone on until my Dad shared an article written by the ever insightful journalist, John Bogert of the Daily Breeze entitled Mobsters have their `good' names. He's a great columnist who always brings his personal experience into his writing.

A little more research revealed these very interesting NY Times article as well entitled Undercover Operation Leads to Mob Arrests and Big Mob Sweep Nets Gambino Hierarchy.

Apparently this was the result of a two and a half year undercover investigation and involved the capture of 62 alleged Mafia leaders. Amazing! I had no idea the Gambino family was still as prevalent in mobstering as they are.

Perhaps some of the issues in my area might be part of a grander scheme that requires additional investigation which is why things don't always seem to move as quickly as we think it should too. Who knows? Only the shadow knows I guess.

I liked this quote the best taken from the LA Times article entitled Dozens Arrested in mob raids in New York and Sicily

"At a news conference in Brooklyn, state Atty. Gen. Andrew M. Cuomo said the arrests served as a message that 'organized crime still exits. . . . We like to think it's a vestige of the past. It's not. It is as unrelenting as weeds that continue to sprout in the cracks of society.'"

This quote, from the International Herald Tribune from the article entitled Mob indictment ties shakedowns to big construction jobs in New York City area is especially interesting in light of all the commercial construction that goes on in Hermosa Beach against code.

Or whatever it's called when parking structures are put up when and where they're not supposed to; or when certain office buildings are allowed to be built without enough parking when every other business who builds is required to have a certain amount of parking before they get their permits or move forward; or when businesses that are supposed to act as restaurants operate as bars and nightclubs without enforcement of the law - whatever that type activity is called, that's what's going on down here.

Can you help me name this activity? I'm confused... It sounds illegal to me, but maybe I'm wrong. Probably, right? It's too coincidental right? There's no mob activity in the South Bay is there? Couldn't be! We're the beach after all and they're New Yorkers who like New York - not here. Never here... You get my drift...The ironies are fascinating.

Anyway, here's the pertaining quote:

"'The extortion in the construction industry — described mostly in the indictment by an informant who paid off the mob on jobs for his trucking, cement and excavation businesses — prove that organized crime's ties to construction are as strong as ever, observers say.

"'It's still a major problem in the construction industry," said Randy Mastro, a former federal prosecutor who also targeted mob ties to construction as ex-Mayor Rudy Giuliani's deputy."

And from CNN, Reputed mobsters rounded up in NY and Italy article:

"According to the charges, the Gambino family profited from extortion within the New York construction industry and its labor unions. Several companies allegedly paid a "mob tax" in return for "protection" and "permission to operate," said Inspector General Hedell from the U.S. Department of Labor."

That's all for now.

Vewy, vewy intwesting as the whacky wabbit always says...

Oh, and by the way, Happy early Valentine's Day!

Here's a beautiful card I received from a friend of mine:

For God so loVed the world,
      That He gAve
            His onLy
  That whosoever
      Believeth In Him
           Should Not perish,
        But have Everlasting life."

John 3:16


Send some love to our soldiers for Valentine's!

By Joy A. Kennelly

Very enjoyable weekend attending Michelle Armstrong's "Armstrong Method," but too into the Grammy's to write. 

In the meantime, consider sending some Valentine love to the soldiers listed below!

CPT Rick Landgraf HHC / 319th MI BN
Camp Slayer
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Some good items to send to CPT Rick and his Soldiers:

Fly Strips
Dental Floss
Granola Bars
Beef Jerky
Bug Spray
Skin Lotion
Athletes Foot medicine
Lip Balm

Below are some Soldiers in his unit do not get things sent to them too much. Their address is the same as Rick's.

PFC Sara Gutierrez (Female)
SPC Robert Still (male)
PFC Jimmy Richards (male)
PFC Jason Harris (male)
PFC Kevin Cabrera (male)
PFC Lewis Green (male)
PFC Shatoni Royal (female)
PFC Ariel Montesino (male)
SPC Malcalisha Jefferson (female)
PFC Tomika Wallace (female)

The above listed Soldiers are either single or their families do not have a lot of money. Anything that is sent would be greatly appreciated.

Happy (early) Valentine's Day everyone! Enjoy the Grammy's everyone!

Great networking event tonight!

By Joy A. Kennelly

Watched Lipstick Jungle tonight after my mixer and like it a lot better than the Cashmere Mafia. We'll see... Much cuter men on Lipstick Jungle - especially the young hottie who seduces that married woman. Not saying I approve of that aspect, just like his look. Hot, hot, hot!

Love the fact the channel 4 news covered "the Cougar connection" --too funny! Tonight was a lot of fun with all my Cougar girlfriends - although we're not into younger men so much, we do enjoy the eye candy. Hey, we're not blind people. However, totally cracks me up that the term Cougar has become mainstream. Growlll! Why should older guys have all the fun with younger women? Right? Turn-about is fair play in my mind.

We had a great turn-out tonight! Once I figure out how to upload pix from this camera, I'll share them with you! Kim was so sweet and came early to help set up. You always love people like her who are such servant-hearted. I think she's my new best friend. LOL We all agree she looks like a younger, beautiful Maria Shriver. Go Kim go!

Actress Maria Rangel was in all her glory sharing her experiences on NBC's hit show, Age of Love, with a rapt group of women. We all agreed the "tennis guy" was cute, but dull. I guess if all you do is play sports and nothing else...

In addition to the wonderful Yummy soy candles she was selling, Maria literally gave this woman the dress off her back from her new line of Yummy designs to try on. I was laughing so hard I think I forgot to take pix, but imagine one woman modeling this extremely sexy long dress with lots of boobage surrounded by her lovely long blonde hair and then imagine the other lovely brunette woman (Maria) wrapped in nothing other than a spa wrap towel cheering her on! Too funny and so Maria.

The Gochi drink was a huge hit too because after all, Oprah endorses it! And Oprah is god-like right? Also, Dr. Oz, Time Magazine and so many more call it a Super Food! Gotta try it! Trust me. You'll be so amazed at how good you feel! It has changed my life by controlling my hormones which I am so happy about. Believe me, so are others!

Chef Melinda booked her first wedding cake order and cupcake delivery order tonight. Go Chef Melinda!
Her new company name is Sugar Cups - isn't that adorable? "Get your cake and eat it too!" You don't want to know the back story to that tagline...:)

We took the funniest pictures (which won't be included in the official company pix for obvious reasons - sex sells, but that's not what we're selling - only cupcakes people!) I wish I had another one right now. Perfect gifts for Valentine's Day if anyone needs a nice company present for anyone. Hint, hint.:)

What was interesting to me is that on my vision board I had cut out a picture of a wedding with cupcakes as the wedding "cake" and it gave me chills when I realized now I know a baker who bakes cupcakes! She hadn't decided on cupcakes as her main focus for her new business when I created my vision board. Too freaky. Maybe this is my year for love? I hope so...

Spa Riviera Owner, Tony, was a hit with the ladies and men because everyone wants to look years younger with his amazing microdermabrasion treatments. I especially enjoyed his new massage therapist, Martha's gifted hands as she released some of my tension during a chair massage. Can't wait for a real massage, I need one after today. OY!

Lou-e-Luey's outdid themselves too. Rafael's shrimp ceviche is absolutely divine, as was everything else, and everyone was asking for cards all night long. I had no idea they were such a great Baja seafood place. I really must visit soon. Really wonderful. Highly recommend it! Fun vibe in the restaurant and delicious food.

My new artist, Beverly Bigwood, showcased her artwork and her kissing cupids were a big hit. So glad we're working together. She has a real unique style and is such a beautiful woman (inside and out.) She deserves all the best. Now to help her achieve it.

Otherwise, life is moving ahead at warp speed. I'm very excited to see what will happen now that we've launched the first South Bay Professional Connection - onwards and upwards!

God bless everyone! God loves you and so do I!

It's not too late to attend Spa Riviera party tonight!

By Joy A. Kennelly

People have been contacting me worried that they didn't RSVP in time. To be honest, everyone has lost the fine art of rsvping, so just come on down. The more, the merrier. Just know, it is to promote businesses, restaurants, Sugar Cups, Maria Rangel and other surprise guests ok?

See you there!

Join us at Spa Riviera on
Thursday, February 7, 2008

6pm – 9pm

                            1611 South Catalina Ave., Lower level – L40, Redondo Beach, CA

(Corner of Catalina and Avenue I –free parking underneath)


Special Guest Appearance by Actress Maria Rangel, Renowned Microdermabrasion Specialist, Tony Cutrona, & Clarisonic skincare demonstrations, New GoChi – Himalayan Goji juice tastings, and lots of free Giveaways too!

 Enjoy Appetizers by Lou-e-Luey’s Restaurant


Delectable Valentine’s Day Desserts courtesy of Chef Melinda

Very surprised to learn this, but happy too...

By Joy A. Kennelly

Just learned how to analyze my stats a little better and learned that I receive 1700 unique hits a month! Also, that roughly 20 people subscribe to my blog which means they like to receive copies of whatever I'm writing. WHOA! Too interesting.

Anyone care to advertise? I welcome all requests, but reserve the right of unconditional refusal.:)

Makes me feel good, but also curious as to who all these people are!?:) Hello gentle readers. Thanks for thinking I write things you seem to find interesting. Trying to get more diversity above and beyond Hermosa Beach, I promise!

You can always check out my other wordpress blogs: The Joy Writer PR, The Pregnant Pause, LA Cast Joy, for some other musings.

You can also just Google my name people, or even the name of this blog - Pure, Unadulterated Joy. I'm number one in Google and generally whatever I link to shows up in the top ten Google searches too.  Very valuable Search Engine Optimization I've been told. Now to learn how to monetize it!

Hope you're having a great week! I am. Lots of good stuff percolating with good news to report soon! Rumor has it the Writer's Strike might be ending soon too - thank you God! I don't know about you, but I miss my TV shows! Go Writers Go! Hurry up and settle Studios. Enough's enough.

I did receive a funny email from a writer/producer associate of mine, Devorah Cutler-Rubenstein aka The Script Broker, with a link to a funny response to this whole issue. I guess when you're creative, you're creative whether you're getting paid to be or not!

Check it out here. All the latest news on the Writer's Strike is also available on that site too. Very informative. Writers, we write. That's just what we do.


Christine Kane is one of my favorite blogs to read...

By Joy A. Kennelly and quoting Christine Kane

Hi Everyone, If you've never read anything by Christine Kane before, you're in for a real treat. This woman is a musician, teaches creativity, and runs these amazing retreats in the woods of North Carolina that I'd love to attend one day.

I'm taking the liberty of posting her entire blog here because you really must follow this woman! I just love her wisdom and freedom to be the full expression of who she is meant to be. She is someone who inspires me, encourages me, challenges me and makes me laugh.

Here's a link to her blog.  Tell everyone you know! We all need to apply what she has to say. Think of what an amazing world it would be!

Enjoy the read!

The Architecture of Delight

January 3rd, 2008 by Christine Kane

The final Great Big Dreams retreat of 2007 happened over this past weekend. On Saturday, I was talking with one of the participants. I’ll call her Vanessa. We were talking about her daughter who is famous and successful in the arts. After she told me of her daughter’s many successes, awards, and world travels, I asked Vanessa, “Is your daughter happy?” She scrunched up her face and said matter-of-factly, “Hmmm. No. Not really. Not at all.” We both cracked up. The American Dream.

It’s interesting that so many of us clamor for some vague idea of success or goal-setting without considering our own delight in the process. It would be funny if it weren’t so depressing!

I’ve been guilty of neglecting my own joy, and forgetting the things I most love. Several years ago, I was touring almost constantly. I was working hard just to keep my office, employees and independent record label going. I got into such a rut that my lack of delight began manifesting in unhealthy behaviors - drinking more often, eating crappy food, a perpetual distractedness with my friends and family, and a constant fear of “not enough.” On the outside, you probably wouldn’t have known it. But on the inside my heart was breaking.

Eventually, I hit a serious emotional low and decided to take some time to myself. I took many hikes in the woods. It was hard to do this at first because I couldn’t connect to nature. I was all wrapped up in my head and lost in thoughts and to-do’s.

Then one day, as I passed by a blackberry bush, the wall around my heart cracked open slightly. I absolutely love blackberries. Not for their taste. But for how they look. I stood there and just stared at the blackberries as tears fell down my cheeks. It dawned on me that in my quest to make it as an artist, I had adopted obsession and forgotten delight.

When you adopt obsession, you require hard hits of big things to wake up the you that has become numb. It’s as if food has to be spicier, saltier, and fattier. Music has to be louder and faster. Moments need to be “events” to get you to notice them. It takes more flash to feel good. It takes more bling to be present.

When you remember delight - you taste, you express, and you smile. You remember to feed yourself and be fed. You remember to notice. You cherish.

It’s the difference between a vacation at Disney World, and a week at an old beach house that smells like salt air and ocean spray.

Why is delight important?

Delight is a “now” word. Delight is about living in the moment - but without having to prod yourself to “be present.” Delight shifts your energy so that you become “attractive” and happy. When you are attractive and happy, then effortlessness has a way of delivering your success to you, rather than you having to “work hard” for it all the time. Also, when you are happy and when you allow delight in your life, then “working hard” isn’t so hard. In fact, it’s more fun.

One of Abraham-Hicks’s daily messages in 2007 was this: “A happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people don’t allow the happy moment, because they’re so busy trying to get a happy life.”

Delight is that moment.  Delight shifts your chemistry. It removes the resistance.  It teaches you how to allow effortlessness.

We all know that, of course. And we nod and think, “Yea yea - I need to do something about that.” And then we don’t.

But have you ever considered that it might be imperative to make space for delight in your life?

Do you recognize that delight and joy might actually attract more of your goal to you as you take action steps towards it?

I’ve discovered that the more I’ve opened up to delight in my everyday life, the more I allow it in my work life, too. The more I move toward delight in my work, the more unexpected opportunities show up.

Here’s a random example: At the end of 2006, I began teaching creativity to leaders of the Federal Government. This training happened every other month throughout 2007. (And will continue throughout 2008.) In spite of all of the objections in my head (”You’re a songwriter! You can’t do this!” “Who do you think you are? This is just weird!”), I started realizing that I’m good at it - and that I really love doing it.

So I acknowledged that and kept re-designing my class and looking forward to flying to DC every other month. I got two raises during the year. And I’ve now had several businesses and corporations contract me to teach creativity to employees after finding out about my classes. I have yet to advertise or to put up a website about these trainings!

I’m now convinced that delight is one of the best ways to create effortlessness.

5 Simple Ways to Invite Delight

I still get in ruts, even now. But I’m faster at finding my way out of them. I’m more tuned in to recognizing when I’ve abandoned delight. And I know that the fastest way to get me back on track is to take some time to shift into enjoying something in the moment - rather than trying to push through the pain. Here are five ways to tap into your own delight:

1 - Create a “Here’s What I Love” List

This is an on-going list in your journal. Just write a list of a hundred things you love. If you can think of more, write them down. But write at least a hundred. From the way your dog’s ears bounce when you take her for a walk, to watching West Wing re-runs to strawberries in the summer. Call it your Master “Here’s What I Love” list. Just creating it will open your heart.

2 - Create a “Fun To-Do’s” List

This is a list to have on hand when you forget to have fun. You don’t have to come up with 100 things, but it’d be great to get at least 20 things. Be sure to include stuff you used to love when you were a kid, just in case you might try them again some time. (Don’t forget swinging on swings, jumping on trampolines, and throwing water balloons!) What is fun for you? What gets you excited? What do you love doing? Put it all down.

3 - Create a “Friends I Want to See More” List

I called my friend Beth right before Christmas and left her a message. In it, I pointed out that we had seen each other only thrice this entire year. (Though I didn’t actually say “thrice.”) Whenever Beth and I get together, we usually laugh so much, I think it boosts our immune systems for a few months! It’s so easy to let time slip by without hanging out with your most cherished friends and family. Make a list of people you love to be with - and then call them and make some plans.

4 - Consciously choose to enjoy something in your day

Let’s say you’re at work and you’re giving a presentation. Let’s say you usually despise doing this. Try shifting it. Pretend you like doing it. Look around at the people, feel the funny blips of fear in your stomach, smile to yourself and have some fun! I started doing this on stage in the past few years - and it’s really changed how I show up as a performer. To just have fun in some of those moments and realize that this is where you are right now - this can be so liberating. You might even find that you can delight in things that you never even liked before!

5 - Do things imperfectly on purpose.

Let go of perfection. I know this is a hard thing to do. But it can really add to your delight to just do something because you want to do it - not because you have to do it well.


Final Note: This article was scheduled to be posted yesterday, but it snowed here. And we woke up to a blessed shadowy white morning, and I opted to walk outside with my dog - who delights in snow while I delight in her delighting in the snow. I’m happy I waited!

Actress Maria Rangel at our Special Pre-Valentine's Day Party 2/7!

_mg_31801gold_dressNow, does Actress Maria Rangel look familiar? HOT!!! Gotta love the Latinas! Watch out Eva - there's another hottie on the loose...

(Marc Cherry, doesn't Eva need an evil sister or cousin on Desperate Housewives? Here's your girl!)

You might recognize Maria as one of top finalists from NBC's Age of Love hit reality show where 40 year olds competed against 20 year olds for the 30 year old tennis champ, Mark Philippoussis' love.

Her spunky, outspoken nature fueled the show's popularity last summer. Maria shocked the world when she made the bold decision to bow out of the show when she realized he wasn't the one for her. Women everywhere cheered!

Maria's bold attitude and love of life has inspired and empowered women everywhere with her inspirational message: 'A woman's worth' is never determined by winning a man's love.

Which is why I've invited her to participate in our Pre-Valentine's Day Party - I love her attitude!

Come talk to her about her experiences on the show, learn what's she's working on now, take a picture with her and collect her autograph (if that's what you do.)

Maria looks forward to meeting you!

Join us at Spa Riviera on
Thursday, February 7, 2008

6pm – 9pm

                            1611 South Catalina Ave., Lower level – L40, Redondo Beach, CA

(Corner of Catalina and Avenue I –free parking underneath)

Special Guest Appearance by Actress Maria Rangel, Renowned Microdermabrasion Specialist, Tony Cutrona, & Clarisonic skincare demonstrations, New GoChi – Himalayan Goji juice tastings, and lots of free Giveaways too!

 Enjoy Appetizers by Lou-e-Luey’s Restaurant


Delectable Valentine’s Day Desserts courtesy of Chef Melinda

RSVP to 310 316-2888

What an upset game today, eh? And other musings

By Joy A. Kennelly

I'm not into football at all, but today's Super Bowl game was very exciting. It's great to see the best of the best go against each other now that I understand there are two leagues. (Hey, I'm blonde, give me a break!)

Too bad the Patriots' coach was such a poor loser. Click here for a sports guy's perspective from Yahoo.
This site is even more interesting... A link to all the Super Bowl Commercials! Gotta focus on what's most important right? Just kidding.

It was fun to get out to a local party and see my good friend Brenda, but after so little sleep last night I was dragging. Plus, I think I was allergic to something in the party house so it made me tired too. Can't believe I'm still up.

In any case, was watching Celebrity Apprentice where Stephen Baldwin was defending himself. Very funny to see how his Christianity kept getting thrown into the mix.

After hearing today's sermon by my Pastor, Jim Mackinga, and singing at both services, I've come to realize I need to show more of God's love, rather than judgment. You missed another great sermon by the way. Really spoke to my heart. All about contentment. Jim keeps it real. Visit Bay Cities Community Church and see for yourself sometime!

Oh, one last bit of exciting news to share. My friend, Maria Rangel, of NBC's Age of Love series will  make a special guest appearance at my Special Pre-Valentine's Day Party at Spa Riviera this Thursday, February 7 between 6pm - 9pm. She won't stay the whole time because she's doing this as a favor, but this will be your chance to get an autograph or take a picture with her if you're so inclined.

Just don't bum rush her ok? LOL Thank you. This has been a public service announcement on the treatment of reality stars...:)

Chocolate kisses and football dreams...

Oh, and Cougar chasers...

I've decided I need to become the white Oprah...

By Joy A. Kennelly

I just did a vision board with some friends tonight and I put money on it in the 100's of millions (my guy bud kept saying dream big - ok, so I did!) As I was driving home I was thinking, now how can I make that kind of money?

Then I thought of it. Become the white Oprah! Isn't she worth money like that? No offense Oprah, but I've always admired your business acumen and the way you handle your show. I have always said you're one of my role models and who I want to most be like.

Well, maybe this will happen after all! My friends have been teasing me that it's time for me to get out behind my blogs and have my own show since I have so many opinions and know so many cool people.

I can see it now. The Pure, Unadulterated Joy Show. Doesn't it have a nice ring to it?

What's so ironic is that once she said it I thought, maybe she's right. Maybe I should go get my own cable talk show. I love watching Ellen. Jimmy Kimmel was very funny last night. (Did anyone else think Bobby Brown was totally a riot? Especially in his jeans! MAN! No wonder black men don't wear tight pants. JUST KIDDING!) Letterman with Paris was funny too.

I think I could put together a similar show format (incorporating some of my favorite bands from myspace) that would be rockin' and have a message too.

So, I'm at lunch with my friend Kirsten today and she mentions that a friend of hers has just been given a cable station that she needs to fill with programming. Hey! I'm all over it! I'm telling you. Put something out there and who knows where it will lead?

We'll see. I have no idea. But what was cool is that my friend Rick used to have his own sports show years ago and he's totally into the idea of doing it again for her too. I'll have to tell him that his wife Shana is my Gayle though so no having her on his show. She's my best friend in this one.:)

The possibilities are endless! I love how Jimmy Kimmel has that deadpan Mexican guy doing all kinds of funny stuff. Also, how David Letterman incorporates his Asian guy into skits that are so silly they work. What nationality shall I go with? African American? Eastern Indian? Hawaiian? Polynesian? I don't see anyone having fun with someone of color like that yet. Do you?

Now please know, I am totally joking around. Don't be offended. I'm just pointing out an obvious marketing tool (making fun of minorities with love) that has apparently worked on two major talk shows so why shouldn't I copy it? I'm sure Conan and Ferguson have their targets too, but I'm usually too tired to stay up to watch them. Plus, I don't find their sense of humor that funny. I just don't. Sorry guys. I know tons of others do though so who cares what I think.

So back to my side kick. At first I was thinking a hot surfer dude like that guy on TMZ (can you believe people are still Googling that guy? He's cute, but he's not that hot people! I guess compared to everyone else on their staff....)

So back to my show concept. Then I thought, what about my 'ole Rapper bud with the large pink and white mink stovetop hat as my foil for stupid minority skits? He's a character and he could prove pretty funny in the right situations. We'll see. I could spin him off to be my next Dr. Phil if he gets popular enough. Just have to make sure he realizes the jokes on him before we start or it could get messy.

Who will be my Dr. Oz? I'll figure it out. This could be a lot of fun. What about that foot doctor that everyone loves to party with down here in MB? I forget his name, but you know the man-child I'm talking about right? Oh wait, he's too old to be a man-child right? Man-boy? What do you call someone with stunted adolescent tendencies?

I'm so confused! I'm sure the latest sexy 20 year old he's been hitting on will be able to tell me what to call him. Thanks 20 year old. I know, he's old enough to be your father, but he's got money so what the hey right? How about baby daddy? Kind of has a ring to it...

Ooooh, I'm rolling tonight. Good thing I'm going to church in approximately 6 hours. I need some chuchin'. I'm even singing if you can believe it. I'm looking forward to it, but 6am is vewy, vewy early. I've had such a great weekend starting on Friday.

I've decided I'm going to have to get out of the Hermosa Beach fishbowl at least once a week to keep my sanity and my sense of humor about living here.

What always cracks me up about the people who read this blog is how angry they become. If it makes you angry, stop reading it. Right? Right. Read something else. There's got to be something sick in you to continue reading something that irritates you. Oh well, not my problem. Thanks for being loyal. HA!

Better go check my laundry. Hopefully it's finally dry. I had such a fun time visioning with Rick and Shana tonight I kept forgetting to check it while I was there and now...

I'm going to be looking tired tomorrow! Hope your favorite team wins in the Super Bowl. I'm voting for the commercials and the half-time show. Wonder what mysteries await us there?

Sleep well.

This is so hard to do!

This one is so true. Every time I think I'm making progress in a certain area of my life, it comes back to hit me in the face. I hope this blesses you as much as it blessed me. We have to keep moving forward and striving to be better people regardless of what happens the day before!

A Life That Pleases God

 By Micca Monda Campbell

"For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit." Romans 8:5 (NKJ)


The Tennessee Women's prison has an unusual baptistery in their chapel. It's a coffin. For these women, being baptized in a coffin is a powerful visual of their death and burial with Christ. Thereafter, the coffin, which is a permanent fixture in the chapel, becomes a daily reminder that they are no longer slaves to sin and enemies of God. Their old way of living is dead, buried, and gone; and they are now free to live a life pleasing to God.

This is such an awesome truth in ours lives that Billy Graham says, "We should meditate on the truth that we are dead to sin and alive to righteousness, until returning to the old way of living is unthinkable."

While it is true that we are dead to our old life, staying dead is another matter. Often, our dead flesh will raise its ugly head and try to influence our thoughts and actions. If we listen long enough to its demands, we suddenly find ourselves at the graveyard fervently digging up our old flesh, so that it can perform its sinful deeds.

Christians have a responsibility to put to death their old nature through daily surrender or else they cannot live a life pleasing to God. They will begin to think only of themselves again and ways to gratify their flesh. However, those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit will live a life of righteousness free from sin. Those who follow the Holy Spirit will not think about fulfilling the desires of the flesh. Their thoughts are occupied by God's Word, His ways, and purposes.

The Bible tells us in Philippians 4:8, "Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely an admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." So, what dominates your thoughts?

If we only think of ourselves, what we want and our rights, then eventually we'll find ourselves going down the wrong path, one that leads to a stinky life. On the other hand, thinking on things that are pure and worthy brings forth life that is pleasing to God and a witness to others.

If you are in Christ, then the flesh no longer dominates you, my sister. So stop visiting the graveyard. Instead be led by the Holy Spirit by dying daily to your old way of thinking and living. Then, the Spirit of God can create in you a pure life that releases a sweet, pleasing aroma.

Dear Lord, I confess that I often visit the graveyard to free my dead flesh. Help me to keep that person in the grave by yielding solely to Your Holy Spirit so that my life will be pleasing to You, in Jesus' Name, Amen.