How Do You Save An Elder from Abuse?
September 24, 2024
My Father trusted a man named Paul Huddle who ran an organization called The Gathering Of Men to become his Power of Attorney.
My Dad is 92 years old now and is being basically held captive by his granddaughter, Miranda Cavin, and Paul Huddle.
I have made numerous reports to Adult Protective Services starting from when I returned to CA from TX to protect him from his granddaughter's neglect and Paul’s explotation of his mental capacity as it surrounds my Dad's trust.
Two weeks into my stay with my father, Miranda attempted to persuade my Dad to file a restraining order against me because I was revealing all the times she left him alone, didn't make sure he had seen his doctors, and didn't ensure he received a kidney shot that is crucial for his well-being.
During the time prior, Paul swore up and down that he was overseeing Miranda and she was doing a fine job.
Meanwhile, my Dad didn't have eyeglasses or hearing aids for weeks which Paul swore was being taken care of. It didn't happen until my sister Grace and I got involved.
This supposed "man of God" began plotting then on how to remove me from caring for my Dad. He is thwarted because my Dad loves me and refuses to take any legal acti9n against me because he knows I'm caring for him.
When I came back to CA, my Dad had cockroaches in his kitchen because Miranda was so slovenly. I threw away food from 2023 that she never checked. I was appalled at my Dad's living conditions and began filing report after report after report.
The social worker would come and help make some changes, but now it's only getting worse.
The VA social worker I brought my Dad to was hijacked by Miranda and her mother Glori, who manipulated my Dad who has dementia, to remove Grace, my other sister and myself, from Dad's medical HIPAA.
Miranda, Glori and Paul have ignored medical advice not to leave my Dad alone and for him to wear hearing aids to help slow down dementia because as Glori and Paul say, it's OK he can't hear, he's old. That happens.
I have fought and fought and fought on my Dad's behalf to keep him safe, but now that he went into the hospital and Glori's husband decided to take over medical power of attorney, it's been downhill ever since because now the Cavin's have full control of Dad's health and the caregiver.
Oh, and ironically, I'm the one who set Dad up with the VA social worker and Always Best Care, but am also the one shut out. You can read my review of Always Best Care on Google and Yelp. It isn't good.
So, if you were me and there were 4 adults damned and determined to prevent you from having any contact with your father, call the police on you for no reason except to exert control, would you walk away?
Because what's at stake is my Dad's health and the fact Paul has deliberately refused to update the trust with an amendment protecting my inheritance my Dad wants me to have repeatedly, always finding excuses not to do, threatening me, and then manipulating my Dad yet again to attempt to sue me.
Paul yelled at me while my Dad was on the phone with us causing my Dad undue stress and then coming over to Dad's house to finish the job, requiring my Dad to go to the hospital to make sure he was OK.
At what point do you get the police to arrest Paul for financial elder abuse and misconduct? When is there enough to prove Paul is manipulating my Dad to do what Paul wants and not my Dad?
Oh, and the beauty is having a 30 year friendship be betrayed because this person bad mouthed me to someone I ended up meeting who told me what that woman said behind my back.
My Texas and Florida friends say, stay in a community for awhile and build relationships. How can I when I'm fighting for my Dad's safety and health all the time?
Would you let Paul’s manipulation go unobservef? Or would you attem0t to have his church peers speak to him and ask him to act more like a man of God than a petulant proud, arrogant, selfish person that he is right now?
I've never been yelled at by another man before and the fact that my Dad thought that was OK only tells me how far gone Dad is. I really hope one of the social workers will finally take my side and listen to the recordings I've had to make confirming my dad wants no legal action taken against me.
Paul is now threatening me with a lawsuit using my Dad's money because he thinks he can just manipulate the trust to cover his legal fees! When does the law stick up for the victim? That's what I don't get?
I wish my Dad would just give me my inheritance now to avoid having to continue dealing with any of the Cavins or Paul Huddle. He's such an asshole while my Dad is alive I'm sure it will be even worse once Dad is gone.
I only lift the carpet to reveal all the snakes because I'm so tired of this going on behind closed doors I could scream it from the rooftops if only someone would hear me.
I tried mediation, but that lasted an hour before Grace shut it down. Glori is so intent on revenge, she doesn't care about trying to make things work. She has control through her husband so she could care less what happens to Dad now.
My friends tell me they're praying we will all get along, but then I tell them Miranda has blocked my phone number from my Dad's phones and they are shocked. But not as shocked as when they learned Miranda decided to call the police after I asked the caregiver not to serve my Dad fried food and the woman stormed off the job.
At a certain point, I can only take so much abuse and have to take care of myself. Put the oxygen mask on before caring for anyone else.
So, in case you know any men still involved with Paul Huddle's Gathering of Men ministry who are thinking of using him in their end of life plans, I would highly recommend you find someone else.
He is proud, arrogant, ignorant of the law, abusive in his control of money that isn't even his and doesn't have my Dad's best interests at heart and probably will do the same to you.
And I have recordings, signed "contracts" he manipulated my Dad to sign, and other evidence that will all come out in court.
You can run, but you can't hide. That goes for Miranda too. She may think this game is over, but it's not until I see her and Paul in jail for what they've done to me and my Dad. Elder abuse is serious.