Thoughts living in #Hawthorne and my fun day with my former room-mate Maria. #travel #introspection #illegalfireworks #BFF #love

By Joy A. Kennelly

Was laying in bed and had this thought which I just had to share. Today, spent the day hanging out with my former room-mate Maria. We always have a great time together. So much so, I told her we should look into getting a sponsor for a camper and travel cross country spreading love and racial harmony. If you want to see some snippets of our day, go to my 

I'll post more pix tomorrow, but am too tired tonight.

1280x960_60712C00-RLCYZ_1498779976656_23316045_ver1_600webSo happy the news media is finally reporting on the illegal fireworks and the police are catching perpetrators. It's all quiet on the western front tonight as soon as I tweeted out that 9 felony charges were filed against people who started fires with fireworks and the City of Los Angeles was going to crack down harder.

Did you know there's a complaint form on the City of Los Angeles website? Well, there is. If you live in the South Bay, our district is 4 and is governed by LA County Supervisor, Janice Hahn 213 974-444 email: or South Bay Deputy, Jennifer Zivkovic LaMarque  310 222-3015 or or simply fill out this complaint form here: 

NO Racism We Are the SameThat wasn't why I came on here to write tonight though. Where was I? Oh yes...

Maria and I always have great conversations when we hang out. She tells me about growing up and raising her girls. Today, she told me she was going to college when her Dutch female room-mate's parents moved her out of her dorm room when they found out Maria was black. Maria was so upset by the racism on campus because she used to tell the black groups that white people were fine to her, yet faced racism there too, that she asked her Dad to pull her out of college and he did.

I experienced a little taste of what black people might face when Maria and I lived with an abusive, extremely racist black woman who just hated my guts because I was white. It was the most stressful situation I've ever lived through, but it bonded Maria and me for life because we made it out the other side. That poor black hearted soul is still miserable and racist to her core, whereas Maria and I enjoy our friendship and lives now. Sometimes, it's ok to leave the hatred and pain behind and never look back.

However, as I was thinking of what Maria had shared, I thought back to my high school in Manhattan Beach which, if memory holds true, only had 4 black kids in the entire 400 plus student body. I was friends with one of the girls, who was named Tiny and a Cuban girl named Claudia. I was also friends with a Jewish kid named Bart who I ran into years later on a flight from San Francisco to LA. Turns out he became the President of the Gay and Lesbian Club at UCLA and was so happy to be out. It was great to see him again and we stayed in touch awhile, but I think our belief systems were so different after awhile, our friendship gradually faded away. 

I never felt like I fit in in high school because of my freckles and strict Christian upbringing which said no smoking, no drugs, no drinking and no sex whereas a lot of kids were given free rein to do whatever by their rich parents. I hung out with Mexican friends at church and other kids who came from Hawthorne and Lawndale to attend our church in Manhattan Beach. Still friends with many to this day. Some friends from high school are Facebook friends, but really don't socialize because we have little in common other than attending the same school.

So, all this to say, living in Africa as a child tempered the way I make friends and view people. I know I accept people more widely as a result of having traveled and my parents having friends of all races over the years. One of my Mom's best friends when we were in high school was an East Indian woman the street over. Other friends of my parents were Vietnamese. We always were mixing and mingling with all kinds of people. 

My Dad used to run a kids club where the kids came from broken homes and bad neighborhoods. My Dad would take all of us up to the mountains to go sledding, hiking and get out into nature which he said later had a positive affect on many.

Even before I was born he used to lead a Christian group for young men, with some of his other Christian guy friends and they'd take disadvantaged kids up to fish, camp and hike. Until recently, he also taught an after-school kid's club with young Hispanic children. His Gideon Bible group is mixed races and he used to volunteer handing out Bibles to children in all kinds of neighborhoods. He has a heart for God and a heart to bring kids to God's love and understanding which I love about him. 

So, all this to say. The color of our skin shouldn't separate us so much. We all come to our communities with our own hurts and scars and pain, but together we can heal and grow in understanding if we only talk to one another and hear each other. Not talk AT each other, but simply listen and then speak. I don't think we need to read so much as interact with people as humans who may not look like us, but as Mandisa sings, We all bleed the same. In fact, rather than write any more, I think I'll share her song instead because she says exactly what I'm trying to say so clearly. 


Mandisa - Bleed The Same ft. TobyMac, Kirk Franklin
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18
And with that, Good Night. 


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“Stop the Silence,” an initiative created to help restore peace, bring comfort to George Floyd’s family and supporters, honor black lives lost, lead peaceful protests, prayers for healing and champion for justice, will host a Q & A to commemorate the fifth anniversary of the Mother Emanuel AME Church shooting in Charleston, South Carolina, via Facebook Live.
The discussion will be moderated by EMANUEL documentary producer, Pastor and activist  Dimas Salaberrios. Pastor Dimas is continuing his mission to fight racial injustice with the newly announced “Stop The Silence” initiative, bringing community and faith leaders together in prayerful protest against police brutality and systemic racism in order to both promote awareness, and offer hope and healing.
This dialogue will help encourage reflection, understanding and meaningful education regarding issues of racial injustice in our country. Download the discussion guide at
EMANUEL SYNOPSIS:  National headlines blazed the story: Churchgoers Gunned Down During Prayer Service in Charleston, South Carolina. After a 21-year-old white supremacist opened fire in Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church, nine African Americans lay dead, leaving their families and the nation to grapple with this senseless act of terror. Featuring intimate interviews with survivors and family members, EMANUEL—from executive producers Stephen Curry and Viola Davis, co-producer Mariska Hargitay, and director Brian Ivie (The Drop Box)—is a poignant story of justice and faith, love and hate, examining the healing power of forgiveness.  The film will be available for FREE on the following platforms without a subscription through June 23rd: the STARZ App and STARZ On-Demand, Amazon and iTunes, AT&T, Dish, Roku Verizon, Cox, DirecTV, Mediacom NBC Universal.
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Viola Davis (Executive Producer) 
Julius Tennon (Executive Producer) 
Mariska Hargitay (Co-Producer) 
Dr. A.R. Bernard (Author/Pastor) 
Moderator: Pastor Dimas Salaberrios (Producer)
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I was wrong and here's some wisdom from @rickwarren & @actorinspirit #actorinspiration #racialhealing #faith #peace

"This past week has brought me to my knees so many times.
In light of the current events around racism and social injustice, I want to lovingly remind you that everything I create (whether it’s a program or a post) will always come from a space that stands for love, inclusion, diversity, unity, peace, compassion and acceptance.
And yet, I too, have so much more to learn on the topic of racism."
I wish I had written that, but I didn't. It's from an actress/acting coach, Wendy Braun, who sent me this via her Actor Inspiration newsletter today and it just spoke to me.
The first week everything happened with George Floyd and I heard the young man sing his heart, I just wanna live, I too was on my knees, heartbroken. 
However, as time went on, I became angry and defensive because I was scared and wondering how much more mayhem and madness would take place before people were killed.
My anger and fear Pastor Rick Warren addresses in his message entitled, A Faith That Plants Seeds of Peace, which you can watch here. I admit, I've not been sowing seeds of peace with my last blog and it was wrong.
I was wrong.
Listen and see if you might feel a little remorse yourself.

This is why I listen. I am convicted every time I hear his words of wisdom taken from the Bible. I confess hearing African American's pain was so uncomfortable, so overwhelming, so gut-wrenching, I had a rebuttal of facts, logic, and reasons why we shouldn't feel it as a society and I didn't have love.
And that is where I need to grow and change. And I am deeply sorry to those who read my words and were hurt.
It wasn't kind. It wasn't loving. It wasn't wise.
And I sincerely apologize. 
I think that's why Rick Warren's message was one I ran from yesterday. I wasn't ready to have my heart affected, or my opinions reconsidered, or to have my motives and heart be seen through the eyes of Jesus and His word. 
I wanted to pretend my self-righteous anger against the looters was just that, righteous. It still makes me mad, but I also want to be someone who hears the pain and understands rather than someone who lectures and "Karen's" a group of people who are hurting and acting out. 
Doesn't make looting right. Doesn't make the multiple murders of innocent people right. Doesn't make the loss of police through the senseless violence of the mobs right. It doesn't ease the pain of business owners who may have lost everything. 
But maybe, just maybe, listening creates a bridge, where once there was a valley of misunderstanding, racism, and more healing down the road which leads to reconciliation, forgiveness and peace. I hope you take the time to listen to Pastor Rick too and thank you for reading what I'm sharing. 
Maybe, those who are in the wrong, will come to know the God of forgiveness, of love, of peace and of justice because one person's loving actions made a difference and show a different way of living.
I want to continue sharing how Wendy is listening and sharing from her heart as an excerpt that especially spoke to me because I felt heard and understood.
I hope you do too.
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"Change is upon us, and we are all feeling it.

Change is also messy, emotional, uncertain, painful + requires deep discomfort to really grow, learn and evolve.

So many feelings are coming up.  We are seeing this on a global level and we are feeling it on an individual level.

As artists, I know we are feeling it, because that’s what we do. We feel. We empathize.  We emote.  We seek to understand the human condition.

But I also want to also remind you, that although we live in the digital age, you are not required to process your emotions in public.

Of course, I do hope you are taking time to process your emotions, release them in a way that is healthy and then do what feels best for you.

We all process things differently and we are all called to different actions that will drive us to different lanes.

Your lane might be writing.
Your lane might be donating.
Your lane might be protesting.
Your lane might be organizing.
Your lane might be volunteering.
Your lane might be painting a mural.
Your lane might be a dance or a song.
Your lane might be forwarding petitions.
Your lane might be talking to your children.
Your lane might be making a compelling video.
Your lane might be educating yourself in a new way.
Your lane might be tending to your own mental health.
Your lane might be doing what you can to stay sober today.

Some things to keep in mind:
1) Everyone’s lane is different.
2) Your lane might change from day to day.
3) Don’t feel guilty that you "should be" in all of the other lanes.  It’s impossible.
4) Don’t worry about directing the traffic in the other lanes.

If we want to bring compassion, acceptance + love into the world, we must begin with ourselves.  

So don’t judge yourself for whatever lane you are riding in on any given day.

As you soften your own self-judgment, and then let go of judging others for what they are doing or not doing, you are actually helping create the change that we are all seeking.

Be a beacon of love + light in whatever lane is calling you right now, and know that it does have a ripple effect."
You can read her entire blog here which is entitled Being A Beacon Of Light + Love ❤️ I hope you do take the time to read her entire blog because it's really beautiful and expresses how she reflects love in the world. I think it will bless you too. 
You never know who will be your teacher or lead you on a different path. I'm glad I have  Christian Pastors like Rick Warren at Saddleback Church, Pastor Miles McPherson at The Rock in San Deigo, Pastor Andy Stanley at Northpoint in Atlanta, and so many others I learn from when I take the time to listen.
I'm also glad I met Actress/Coach Wendy Braun. Recognize her from Atypical?  MV5BMjRhYWIyZDctMTk3MS00ZjE2LTgzNTctYWIxZjU5YTUyYjhlXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyODExNTExMTM@._V1_

The funny thing is I looked up her credits after taking her workshop and she had been in a short film by Director Jason Reitman called In God We Trust which I screened at my film festival in the 90's.
Funny how you run across people in Hollywood years later and realize you had a connection from years ago. Kudos to her. 
I've run across a lot of filmmakers, actors, directors and others who were part of my Short Pictures International Film Festival (SPIFF) from that time and they've gone on to do big things, like feature films you'd recognize. Maybe one day I'll do a Where Are They Now blog, but for now, want to close by saying, this isn't an easy time in America right now.
We're all going to experience different emotions, different reactions and "different lanes." I think it's how we drive forward that will determine whether our world remains a train wreck mired in racism, hurt and pain, or will we choose to make conscious decisions to change the direction of our metaphorical car, turn around and drive towards goodness, hope, love and peace with God guiding our way?
The choice is up to you. Jesus take the wheel is all I gotta say... 

I'm letting go, give me one more chance, save me from this road I'm on....


Here's a preliminary list of all the #santamonica businesses with damage & looting this past week. #smallbusiness #recallgavinnewsom

Preliminary list of businesses with damage and looting yesterday in Santa Monica.
7 11 (Wilshire)
99 cents store (Pico / Stewart)
Adidas (3rd)
Anthropologie (3rd)
AT&T (Wilshire)
Awesome Eyes (4th / Colorado)
Bay Cities (Broadway)
Be Crystal Clear (Broadway)
Benny's Tacos & Chicken Rotisserie (Wilshire)
Bevmo (Wilshire)
Big 5 (Wilshire)
Big Jo's (Broadway)
Bloomingdale's (Broadway / 3rd)
Blue Daisy (Broadway)
Brandy Melville (3rd)
Broadway Wine & Spirits (Broadway)
Cash for Gold (Lincoln / Cedar)
Centinela Feed (Lincoln)
Central Compounding Pharmacy (Wilshire)
Chase Bank (4th)
Chevron (Wilshire)
Citi Bank (Wilshire)
Coffee Bean (2nd / Broadway)
Cold Stone Creamery (Wilshire)
CoolKicks (3rd)
Co-Opportunity Market (Broadway)
Crimson (Broadway)
Crossroads Trading (4th)
CVS (Lincoln)
CVS (Main)
CVS (Santa Monica / 26th)
CVS (Wilshire)
Cynergy Cycles (Santa Monica / 23rd)
Dash Run Studio (Lincoln / Wilshire)
Dianese (Lincoln)
DrugTown (Montana/7th)
Fisher Hardware & Lumber (Lincoln)
Flight 23 (3rd)
Foot Action (3rd)
Gap (3rd)
Gap (Wilshire / 20th)
Goodwill (Santa Monica)
Hayk’s Smoke Shop (Wilshire)
Heroic Italian Deli (Santa Monica)
Hi-De-Ho Comics (Broadway)
The Hive (Broadway)
Hummis Bar Express (3rd / Arizona)
Jack’s Jewelers (4th)
Jamba Juice (4th)
Jewelry On 7th (7th / Broadway)
Kaiser Permanente (9th / Broadway)
Les Miller, optometry
Lincoln Barbers (Lincoln)
M & A Tobacco Inc (Lincoln)
Magicopolis (4th)
Massage Garden (Main)
McCarthy Pharmacy (Lincoln / Ocean)
New Balance (26th)
Nike (3rd)
Ocean Park Optometry (Lincoln / Ocean)
Patagonia (4th)
Pharmica (Montana)
Phenix Salon Suites (Broadway / 7th)
Pottery Barn (4th)
REI (4th / Santa Monica)
Rite Aid (Pico / 24th)
Rite Aid (Wilshire / 14th)
Rite Aid (Wilshire / 18th)
Sake House (Santa Monica / 4th)
Salon Tru (Santa Monica)
Salvation Army
Sand n Surf (Broadway / 2nd)
Santa Monica Car Sound & Window Tinting (Santa Monica)
Santa Monica Homeopathic Pharmacy (Broadway)
Santa Monica Jewelry and Loan (4th)
Santa Monica Massage & Reflexology Center (2nd / Santa Monica)
Santa Monica Music Center (Santa Monica)
Sherwin Wiliams (Pico/Licoln)
Shoe Palace (2nd / Santa Monica)
Simply Salad (2nd / Santa Monica)
Solidarity (Lincoln)
Sprint on (7th / Wilshire)
St John's Medical Plaza Pharmacy & Offices (Arizona / 20th)
The Stables (Pico)
Star Liquor (Main / Bay)
Starbucks (11th)
Subway (Wilshire / Euclid)
Sunnin (Wilshire)
Sunny Optometry
Supercuts (Wilshire / 19th)
T-Mobile (3rd)
Tar & Roses (Santa Monica)
Target (Santa Monica)
Thai Vegan (Santa Monica)
Toe Heaven Spa (Main)
Tory Burch (Santa Monica Place)
Training Mate (Lincoln)
Ulta (Wilshire)
Umami Burger (Broadway)
Undefeated (Main)
UPS Store (5th)
Van's (Broadway / 4th)
Verizon (Main)
Vons (Wilshire / Euclid)
Vons (Lincoln / Broadway)
Walgreens (Lincoln)
Walgreens (Wilshire)
Wasteland (4th)
Wexler’s Deli (Santa Monica)
Wonders of the World (Lincoln / Broadway)
World Oil (Lincoln)
Ye Olde King's Head (Santa Monica)

Prayer for peace and protection I just read on Facebook I really like. We need some grace about now.

Holy heavenly Father, our Savior Jesus, our guide and comforter the Holy Spirit you are all alone worthy of praise and honor, we worship you, we love you, we give you thanks.
We pray without any fear and in complete faith because we know that the powers of darkness do not have the capacity to withstand the power and authority of the most high God and shed blood of Jesus Christ. I decree and declare that He who is in me is greater than he who is in the world. We renounce Satan and his dark world and refuse to believe his lies.
In Jesus mighty name and on his behalf we bind the strongman over Washington DC, we break any curse existing over our President Donald Trump, over Washington DC, over our police and national guard, and over our governmental systems.
In the name and authority of Jesus Christ we bind and declare victory over the spirits of fear hate, racism and greed and destroy every work of the evil one.
In the name of Jesus I anoint and bless President Trump, I cover him his family and the Vice President and his family with the precious, perfect and powerful blood of Jesus Christ. In Jesus name I decree that only the presence and will of God the Holy Father be present in the White House and in Washington DC.
I ask all these things in Jesus mighty, matchless name and with His power and authority.

Changing society starts at home and here's some ways we can all help. #father #goals #dreams #hope

By Joy A. Kennelly

I don't know if other writers experience this, but I frame what I'm going to say in my head before I put it down on paper. And this morning, I woke up three times with things I wanted to write which made me realize I need to get it out. So hello again. 

I heard a black author say that looters were stealing because their income disparity was so bad they knew they would never achieve the ability to own a Louis Vuitton purse or any luxury item they stole like art from a gallery on Melrose.

I call bulls$%@. So would Harriet Tubman.

Harriet-Tubman-quote-great-dream-change-the-world-1068x561You know what I think is the root of this issue of rampant lawlessness? Other than the desire to take advantage of white guilt and continue the negative narrative that has plagued the African American community for decades? Fatherlessness which creates all these other issues. Check out this infographic created by the organization behind and the blurb from their website which I've excerpted here: 

Download FatherlessInfographic

The Consequences of Fatherlessness

Some fathering advocates would say that almost every social ill faced by America’s children is related to fatherlessness. Six are noted here. (Also see related fatherlessness epidemic infographic)

As supported by the data below, children from fatherless homes are more likely to be poor, become involved in drug and alcohol abuse, drop out of school, and suffer from health and emotional problems. Boys are more likely to become involved in crime, and girls are more likely to become pregnant as teens."

@thefathereffect  movie is now streaming for FREE until #FathersDay on YouTube & The Father Effect Facebook page. Check it out and share with family & friends! 

I have a friend who was working on a documentary about fatherhood back in 2010 and was really surprised at how much the lack of a father affects children and the impact it has on society as a result. Do you really think young black men, as young as 12 years old and black girls as young as 7, would be involved in protests, looting and rioting, if their fathers had been present in their lives and cared to protect them? I highly doubt it. It's why I cling to my heavenly Father when my earthly Father abandons me emotionally.

But don't take my word for it, take experts because if you do even a simple search of fatherhood all kinds of articles come up indicating how much the lack of a father affects boys and girls in the African American community. And society in general.

I observed it firsthand while living with a Latina single mom and her bi-racial, African American/Latina daughter. The mother worked a low paying day job all day and often worked late into the night/early morning doing Uber to cover her bills, while her daughter was left home alone, smoking pot with her friends, watching adult themed shows that were violent, sexual, and totally beyond anything children should be watching thanks to Netflix. The birthfather never paid child support, but would occasionally take the daughter to stay at the celebrities home he was security for to enjoy a weekend while the celebrity was away. Needless to say, there was a lot of rage in the mom and a lot of jealousy in the daughter who thought doing hair was her way out of poverty.

Due to lack of supervision and a desire to feel loved, this 16 year old got pregnant. But not after first attempting suicide twice, and that was all within the 7 months I lived there. It was my firsthand introduction to what it's like to live in an environment of little income, little hope, and total lack of supervision. The mother tried to compensate by buying the daughter expensive gifts she could barely afford, but the daughter was so spoiled she rarely appreciated the sacrifices her mother made for her. Rather, this selfish girl sadly thought her deadbeat Dad was her hero despite his total lack of financial support due to having so many other baby mamas he should have been supporting.

Where does the cycle of poverty end? Living there it sometimes felt like the chicken and the egg. What do you deal with first? The lack of child support? The abuse? The lack of supervision? I don't know.

I do know that's why I placed my son in an open adoption knowing myself and my family as I do. I love them all, but they haven't always been the most supportive or encouraging of me which helped make the decision easier. They also haven't been the most open-minded to my dating black men in the past which is another reason. Ironically, no desire now which my little Mom wasn't alive to see me change my mind.

America-it-is-not-our-differences-that-divide-us-it-9736284I remember one relative who wouldn't let me bring my black friend to Thanksgiving despite his being very well-educated, kind, and funny from a quality family. And that was years ago. I skipped quite a few Thanksgivings after that, but came to accept that was her experience growing up and I won't change it. It's why she's never met my bi-racial son and probably never will, although she was there during my pre-adoption baby shower and has supported me when other family members haven't.

We have a loving, kind relationship and I value her in my life. We just view race very differently. Perhaps we're a little closer now though.

I also remember being told by a friend who spoke to my middle sister about my pregnancy that she told my friend I wouldn't be a good mother which hurt deeply. My sister also said something racially motivated which I have since forgotten, but it also tempered my willingness to bring my child into my immediate family. 

My youngest sister was always supportive and even came to the hospital when my son was born. I stayed with her and her girls after having my appendix removed while five months pregnant which was a very dangerous operation to have for my unborn son. I remember telling my Mom in the hospital, I know I'm placing him in adoption, but I don't want him to die. She was there every step of the way and would even go to visit the adoptive family with me because she was Grandma in body, heart and mind to my son. I only wish she had been alive to meet him when I brought him out to visit a few years after her death. She always kept in touch with the adoptive family and cared about everything I would share about him.

That meant a lot. I don't have a lot of people in my life who understand or know that period in my life because my closest guy friend died of cancer a few years back and others have moved on, like some friendships do. Looking at me, you wouldn't guess I have a son and I rarely put it out there, but I feel like it today because it helps explain my decision to those who have questions. I have an open adoption which is explained here: 

Open-Adoption-Branded-SmallerI'll never forget my niece laying her little head on my chest to comfort me when I was crying after a particularly rough conversation with an adoption attorney telling me I would never find the family I was looking for and just to accept anyone. She wasn't very old, but she was intuitive and caring. Something I needed then.

And now. 

Because as I write and think about everything going on in the world today, it just breaks my heart that we're still experiencing the same racial tension and violence we experienced back when Rodney King was beaten during the LA Riots. Another Hispanic friend, who has relatives in the police, said what didn't come out during the arrest back then was that he was so high on something and resisting arrest very aggressively which is why it got so crazy. Nothing could bring him down and they had to use force to stop him.

The LA Riots back then were a scar upon Los Angeles, as these are too. And the Mayor and Governor and people responsible for the districts that have been torn up really did nothing to stop it this time.

I saw a video circulating on Instagram that the Santa Monica police knew TWO days ahead of time what was going to happen. Which businesses would be hit, where and when. It was sent to them and they did nothing to warn anyone. If I could share from Instagram I would, but since I can't, follow these accounts if you want to see what's really happening in our city because the local news only whitewashes everything. 

Corruptifornia aggregates all kinds of great content to show what's really going on from a perspective you won't see elsewhere. I also like seeing what this one called LA Street People puts out too. And LA Hood Life, which documents the homelessness, riots and current news. These are citizen journalists doing what our local news oftentimes refuses to do.


So getting back to my first point, to the black author who says blacks are entitled to looting, ruining small businesses and wrecking cities because you feel you will never achieve racial parity, you are so right. You, and those who do this, never will.

Quote-if-you-succumb-to-the-temptation-of-using-violence-in-the-struggle-unborn-generations-martin-luther-king-51-93-96And you deserve the rap sheets, the bias, the negative stereotypes because you're perpetuating this. What about taking responsibility for once in your culture and acknowledge blacks kill more blacks than police officers do. How about stopping aborting black babies? Because you're doing a great job of wiping out your race all by yourself. Don't believe me?

Read this excerpt from 

Minority_Billboard (1)"Abortion is the number one killer of black lives in the United States. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, abortion kills more black people than HIV, homicide, diabetes, accident, cancer, and heart disease … combined.

In 2014, African-American women comprised 13.3% of the U.S. population, but black women had 36% of all abortions."

So excuse me if I don't buy the I'm an innocent black person who has done nothing to deserve this BS by that black author. I don't have the income to buy luxury things, but NEVER in a million years would I join looters to "get mine." That's where the fallacy that it's okay to rob, steal and destroy other's businesses because you "deserve" this is wrong and detrimental to even your own black business owners. I have seen so many black officers, black business owners, and black people in general hurt and damaged by their own people in this awful time I refuse to accept the current narrative that all white people are bad and we owe you anything.

Dear Black People, get it together. Call out the looters and those destroying your communities, your hope, your babies. STOP BLAMING WHITE PEOPLE FOR THE ISSUES YOU OFTEN BRING ON YOURSELF! TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIVES AND BEGIN TO MAKE CHANGES.


Yes, police brutality is wrong. Yes, George Floyd shouldn't have been killed. Yes, this happens way too often. Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes. But I refuse to buy into the narrative that blacks are innocent when I see actions like this during the last weekend here: Rioting in Trenton, NJ  and here: Violent attack in Riverside

I know others feel this way too. I also support peaceful protests, but their voice gets overshadowed by the violence, loss of businesses, loss of life, loss of sense of safety and other issues now facing our society. However, the dialog needs to continue. Let's just hope it brings resolution that is balanced and honest on both sides because compromise, maturity, responsibility means looking at ourselves and our community to determine how we move forward differently.

And with this I close.  





Here's a great initiative to support diverse voices by @ActorsConn. If you're a black actor - check it out & apply! #acting #NYC #ZOOM #alwaysbelearning #BLM #entertainment

This is taken from the newsletter I received this morning from Actors Connection. I didn't have anything to say and this seemed like a great way to use my blog for good. If you have positive things you're doing to assist African American's move forward in society and I like them, I will share them here. All emails can be sent to joykennellyactress (at) gmail (dot) com. Thank you!

EH_x4W8WkAM4MHSHey All!

I'm really excited to announce a few new programs Actors Connection is pulling together in support of the BLACK LIVES MATTER movement.  We went dark for Free at Three the other day and I spent the time asking myself how we can do more.  What can we do?  What SHOULD we do?  How should we do it?

We want to become HYPER ALLIES!  And although everyone on staff has been participating in their own ways individually (donating, marching, advocating ---you name it!)-- as a company we wanted to PUT OUR MONEY WHERE OUR MOUTH IS and show you that without a shadow of a doubt-- WE LOVE YOU and ARE HERE FOR YOU.


So here is what we are doing.

1) We are launching weekly MICRO SCHOLARSHIPS of $100 for actors of color for the months of June and July.  To apply, email us a video of you talking about how YOU as an ARTIST can create change in our industry.  We know we are going to love them all so winners will be selected at random.  Email your submission to and mark "MICRO SCHOLARSHIP" in the subject line.  We know you are using lots of your resources to support your mission right now, so let us help keep your career going in the meantime.

African American reviewing a script
2) We are investing $5000 in projects by content creators in our new ACtivate Your Voice Program.  We will be accepting project proposals all month.  We are looking to support projects that celebrate YOUR unique voice and projects that will inspire CHANGE.  The top 10 proposals will do a live pitch to the AC leadership team and one person will be selected in early July.  To submit, email and mark the subject "ACTIVATE YOUR VOICE". You must include the following:

  • Headshots and Bios of all key players in the project
  • Short one paragraph synopsis on the project
  • Project timeline
  • Project budget
  • Description of the change you would like to create due to this project and how you expect to engage people in it's message

3) We are scheduling a ZOOM PANEL about bringing more equity & equality to our industry.  Stay tuned.  We will announce these details soon.  It'll be an awesome community conversation with the goal of writing down actionable steps to suggest to the members of the entertainment community.

We are working hard to make our impact reflect our intention.  

We love you.  Like a lot.  Our customers are some of the most extraordinary humans on this planet.  Helping you makes our hearts happy.

Be the change,
The AC Team

Here's some of the other great things they've been doing overall that you might enjoy if you're an actor or creative who wants to get involved during our lockdown experience.

Free at Three zoom classesFREE at THREE SERIES

TODAY,  June 3rd, Allison Kirschner, Casting Associate at 3pm EST

June 4th, Malissa Young, Manager at 3pm EST
June 5th, Martin Bentsen, Marketing and Branding Consultant at 3pm EST
June 8th, Bob Kale, Casting Director/Coach AT 4PM EST
June 9th, Elaine Bromka, Emmy Award Winning Actress, at 3pm EST
June 10th, Up-to-Date-Theatricals at 3pm EST
June 11th, Jason Lockhart, Atlanta Models and Talent at 3pm EST
June 12th, RJ Magee, Casting Director, at 3pm EST

Space is LIMITED!  Login early to reserve your spot!
Topic: FREE at THREE Online Lectures and Q&As with Industry Guests!


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